Renowned psychologist Chi Yukai from South China Normal University in Guangzhou has advised young adults in China to prioritize dating and avoid relying solely on the “hook-up” culture. In an interview with Phoenix News on May 20, Chi discussed the attitudes of Generation Z, particularly those aged 18 to 25, towards relationships.
Chi observed that this age group, often the prime time for dating, tends to overthink and hesitate when it comes to starting romantic relationships. Traditional Chinese views label teenage romance as zao lian, or “premature love,” with many parents believing it distracts students and harms academic performance. Chi criticized this societal notion, calling it an “utterly toxic pseudo-concept” that creates misconceptions about romance.
In China, dating before college is discouraged, while after college, young adults face pressure to marry quickly, often realizing their true partner preferences too late, which can lead to extramarital affairs. Chi advocated for encouraging secondary school students to express their feelings of love in safe conditions to avoid these pitfalls.
According to the 2023 Young People’s Dating Attitudes Report, the willingness of young people in China to date scores about 5 out of 10. Of the 2,801 participants surveyed, more than half believed that romantic relationships would negatively impact their career and academic development. Chi noted that the reluctance to marry or date is a byproduct of societal progress and economic development, which diversifies marriage forms and romantic relationships. Many now believe they can live fulfilling lives alone.
The rise of dazi, or “hook-up” culture, in China fulfills some emotional needs typically addressed by romantic relationships. In dazi culture, people gather for activities they enjoy, such as dining, fitness, or travel, forming brief and superficial companionships. Younger generations find these light social interactions more efficient for emotional companionship than traditional dating.
However, Chi warns that dazi culture cannot replace authentic love experiences. “Finding a dazi only seeks simple, immediate pleasure, but life requires more profound emotional support,” he said. His advice has sparked heated discussions on mainland social media.
One online observer on Weibo commented, “Indeed, finding a dazi isn’t a long-term plan. We should cultivate more meaningful intimate relationships, such as with family, a romantic partner, and close friends.” Another countered, “This psychologist is too idealistic. People aged 18 to 25 are busy with their studies and jobs. Many do not have weekends off and work overtime every day. Where do they find the energy and time to date?” A third person added, “I don’t accept your advice. Everyone’s life path is unique. Focusing on dating at this age could mean missing out on many other opportunities.”
Chi’s advice highlights the importance of genuine emotional connections and encourages young adults to seek meaningful relationships rather than relying on transient companionship.
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